In your relationship, who wears the financial pants? If you've got a joint bank account, can you freely spend within reason or do you have to ask his permission if you want to buy something? This is a huge issue between couples. To see how much in control your man thinks he is, buy a few small items, not more than $40, and don't seek his approval or permission before you do. Then, gauge his reaction. If he goes ballistic, you've got a problem.

He's become a woman's fashion maven. Every woman's got her own style. Your man may not like everything you wear, but as long as you do, it's okay. If you find yourself seeking approval of your fashion choices from your guy, there's a problem. If he takes it upon himself to guide your fashion choices, there's a problem. Try this to see if you fall into this category - wear whatever you want the next three times you both go out. If he gets irate and belittles your choices, there's trouble brewing

He's a fortune teller who can predict the future. If you want to do something, does your guy always tell you why it can't be done? Does he put a damper on everything you suggest? This is a form of passive control. Try this to see if you're in this situation - suggest something that you would really like to do. If your man starts up about why it won't be fun or can't be done, do it anyway, by yourself if he won't go.

If he gets upset that you did what you wanted instead of not doing it because he told you it couldn't be done, you've got a problem, but you'll have a great feeling from exercising your freedom and doing something that you wanted to do.